Stupid should hurt…
I saw that on the back of somebody’s car the other day and had to laugh. It’s just one of those judgmental, self-righteous sayings that hit home, you know. Like that dude has never done anything in his 50+ years on this Earth that someone, somewhere would consider stupid.
Then again maybe that’s why he put it on his brand new SUV – he can relate.
I know I can. I’ve done plenty of stupid shit in my life. Probably a lot more than I realize. And yet it’s way easier – and funnier – to identify other people’s stupidity and shove it in their faces with ironic bumper stickers.
I’m not saying I disagree. Stupid should hurt. There should be swift consequences when we do and say stupid stuff. It’s the only way any of us learn.
If you’re anything like me you’re probably thinking of those special people in your life right now that never seem to feel any consequences. Every time something happens – usually drama they brought upon themselves – you hold your breath and wait for shit to finally hit the proverbial fan.
You sit there and listen to them bitch and moan about how bad something is or how bad it’s going to be all the while thinking – hoping – that this might be it. This might be the time that actually causes them to wake up and realize they need to change. They need to assume some responsibility for the direction their lives have taken.
Their stupid is finally going to hurt. You know, like your’s did years – okay months – ago. They are finally going to feel the consequences of poor life choices.
So you wait by the phone thinking for sure they’ll call you with news. This is after you talk them down from the ledge. Nothing is as bad as it seems. You’re a fighter. A survivor. You’re strong.
This is where the judgmental, self-righteousness comes in, because your thinking starts to go a little wonky. You start wondering why you still listen to this person. You start thinking of ways to confront them about their own wonkyness. Oh, hell, you just want to scream at them that most of the shit that happens to them is their own fault.
But of course that won’t happen. Or at least it shouldn’t because it wouldn’t do any good. Because I have a theory. I think stupid hurts no matter if we feel it or not.
And the people it hurts the most are those who think there are no consequences in life because the longer it takes people to figure out they are solely responsible for themselves and their lives and their happiness the more it’s going to hurt – eventually.
Consequences are like a deferred payment with the interest accruing every minute. And each stupid, selfish, unthinking thing we do or say compounds that interest.
It wasn’t fun when I figured out that stupid hurt, but I am oh, so grateful I did early in life. Sure I still do stupid things, but the recovery time is a lot quicker now. I can only hope and pray that my special people figure it out soon, too.