I have dealt with perfectionism for as long as I can remember. It crippled me for a very long time. The worst part is that I didn’t even know I had a problem – like most perfectionists.
I want you to consider this a Public Service Announcement. I’ve met and worked with many people who are perfectionists. Perfectionism is very much like a weed in the garden. It looks healthy and productive and it’s very easy to mistake it for more desirable qualities.
It’s something that never truly goes away. I still struggle with it so I like to find articles and posts that deal with the problem. Awareness is really the only way to stay ahead of it.
I found this article the other day by Dr. Travis Bradberry – Nine Signs Your Perfectionism is Out of Control. It was first published a couple of years ago, but it is still relevant. And I learned a new word – Optimalism!
I truly believe optimalism goes hand-in-hand in stoicism because to be an optimalist you need to be more flexible, resilient, and adaptive. In other words, an optimalist doesn’t let circumstances hold them back. And yet an optimalist is driven and wants to succeed. An optimalist focuses on the positive, learns from the negative, and ultimately succeeds all the while being the kind of person all of us want to be.
I don’t know about you but I think that sounds awesome!!
Even if you don’t think you’re a perfectionist you should really check out this article. After all it took me several years to figure out why I was so miserable all the time. So here are the nine signs that perfectionism is ruining your life. Even if you think only one of these applies to you I encourage you to take a longer look at your approach to life and why people may tend to shy away from you…
- You recognize that your perfectionism is a problem, but you think that’s what it takes to be successful.
- You get defensive when receiving feedback.
- However, you’re critical of others.
- You procrastinate all the time.
- You have a guilty conscience.
- You take mistakes personally.
- You take pleasure in other people’s failures.
- You’re afraid to take risks.
- You live in fear of rejection.