I happened to pick Ryan Holiday’s The Daily Stoic and I read one of my favorite quotes from Marcus Aurelues, Meditations, 12.1 (excerpt from The Daily Stoic, Ryan Holiday & Stephen Hanselman).
You could enjoy this very moment all the things you are praying to reach by taking the long way around – if you’d stop depriving yourself of them.
I wrote about this back in December and I was focused on living a life that is calm and stable so that even if I have to take the long way around I will be happy. And I still stand by that. But rereading this quote yesterday made me think of it in a different way.
So maybe this post should be titled ‘Stop depriving yourself’. I could enjoy myself, enjoy every moment if I stopped depriving myself of that enjoyment. It is something that I can control.
I know I write about stoicism a lot, but come on this concept has to appeal to all of you control freaks. I spent so many days, weeks, months, years miserable because I felt so out of control. All because I was trying to control things I couldn’t possibly control instead of myself, instead of my reactions, instead of my thoughts.
There is power in stoicism. There is peace and tranquility and contentment. There is laughter and joy. Best of all it doesn’t cost anything.
It requires no self-help books or programs or seminars. It requires no group meetings. It only requires a desire to let go and want a more peaceful life. A more functional life.
And who doesn’t want that?
Oh, well, it seems like there are quite a few these days that don’t…
So take a minute today if you’re about to take the long way around again to see if stoicism may not just be the answer to your problems, concerns, stress. After all, we all have only so many steps in this life and we don’t know the number ahead of time…