I used to hate it when my boss told me there was no need to ‘reinvent the wheel’ every time I wanted to change something. It was usually after he had the idea to go in a completely different direction for no other reason than he had to be in control.
Of course, for a while all I wanted to do was ‘reinvent the wheel’.
How else do you have purpose and meaning and excitement in your life? If you’re content then something must be wrong. Status quo is the enemy. And how dare you actually like what someone else has done? It could always be better.
Yeah, I get that. I spent quite a few years wanting to make my mark on my small part of the world while dreaming of changing the rest of it. I became angry every time someone stood in my way.
Change is good. Growth is impossible without change. And small changes are pointless. If you’re going to make changes they need to mind-blowing, earth-shattering, screaming changes that let everyone know something is different.
Yeah, except that’s a load of crap. Because small changes add up. Because living a life for only attention and adoration is probably the worst life to have.
And sometimes what was done previously is worth keeping. Sometimes having a connection to the past gives us the foundation we need to make other, more important changes. Sometimes we need to remember where we came from.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for growth and improvement. I get better at things every day. Thank goodness otherwise life would be pretty depressing!
But what I’m figuring out is that the complete 180 degree kind of changes are the hardest, if not impossible, to maintain. They require such a different thought process that it becomes so easy to slip back into the old way of doing things. And if you need to get other people on board with the changes it becomes exponentially harder to stay the course.
Sometimes real, lasting change takes time and small steps. Steps that are so insignificant at the time that we don’t realize they’re happening. But once the final step has happened and you know that you’re ready to make that final change and it’s going to stick you look back and see what it took to get there and everything just clicks.
The timing couldn’t be more perfect.
There are times when I still wish everything would happen instantaneously. I don’t want to wait. I don’t want to work for anything. I want it now. I look at other people who pay to have things done and seemingly get what they want without having to work for it and I feel the twinge of jealousy.
Today isn’t one of those days.
Being able to spend my time doing things to improve my home, my family, myself is probably one of the greatest gifts I could have. To be able to build and create is such an awesome thing that I feel sorry for those who don’t think they can do it. Or don’t want to because it would take work. Or they’re afraid of doing it wrong or it not turning out as well as they had hoped so they don’t even try.
True, lasting, meaningful change is impossible unless we try. Unless we get over ourselves. Unless we get over the doubt and fear.
So forget about the complete, 180 degree change or reinventing the wheel. Just take a step in a different direction. You can even stay on the same path at first, but just alter your course. I think you’ll be surprised at how quickly you get to real, lasting change.