Hind sight is 20/20. In other words, we see our pasts perfectly…
We can look back on our lives and see our mistakes, see opportunities taken and missed, see what we could have, should have, done better. In other words we can look back and gain wisdom and insight to avoid making the same mistakes over and over again.
Yeah, that’s the theory, but if you’re anything like me you’ve repeated some mistakes more than once. And that is with the benefit of hind sight. There some mistakes I’ve made that all the while I’m making them I’m thinking, ‘here I go again. I probably shouldn’t be doing this.’
Hell, I’ve even said that out loud, and it still wasn’t enough to keep me from making the mistakes. So is hind sight really all that perfect? Is it worth it to even look back if we’re not willing to learn anything from it? What about hind sight that is colored by perspective, by the way we want to remember things? What if we don’t want to let go of the anger, fear, resentment – is hind sight worth anything then?
That’s the problem. Our memories are so subjective. We all remember things differently. You put a group of people together in the same room and I guarantee you not one of them remember the time together exactly the same.
So how can we trust our hind sight? We have a tendency to color over our mistakes, our bad behavior, our responsibility for failed relationships. It is so easy to overlook or just plain forget our most embarrassing moments, our worst behavior.
I know I don’t want to remember when I screwed up. And that is precisely why, instead of ignoring those memories that make me feel my worst I take a moment to face them, own them, learn from them. Because I know that if I totally forget where I came from, who I used to be, I will never become the person I want to be. I will never grow. I will never learn to stop myself before I’m even in a position to make the same mistake.
So I guess hind sight is only beneficial if it stings a little. We have to take the bad with good to learn and grow. Because there is nothing in this world that is perfect, including hind sight…